….manipulative love.

Chicory

…is one of the remedies that Dr Bach grouped together under the category Overcare for Welfare of Others.

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Chicory is for people who are overly possessive and whose care for others is self-centred and manipulative. These strong-willed people expect other people to conform to their values; they may be critical, interfering and nagging. They find it hard to give without expecting anything in return.

They dislike being alone and demand constant attention and service as a duty: typical is the possessively domineering parent who keeps adult children under his or her thumb. Although strong, they are self-pitying and easily offended. Some Chicory people will feign illness in order to gain attention – for example, the possessive parent who manifests ‘heart pains’ whenever a daughter tries to leave home.

They are often very talkative, opinionated and argumentative.

Chicory is also good for children who make constant and unreasonable demands for attention.

The positive potential of Chicory is seen in people who are able to care for others unselfishly, offering genuine maternal love. They give without expecting anything back and allow their loved ones to be themselves and live their own lives. Feeling fulfilled and self-assured, they no longer need other people’s assurance that they are worthy of love. They are warm, kind, concerned for others and sensitive to other people’s needs.

Dr Bach’s description

Those who are very mindful of the needs of others; they tend to be over-full of care for children, relatives, friends, always finding something that should be put right. They are continually correcting what they consider wrong, and enjoy doing so. They desire that those for whom they care should be near them.

– The Twelve Healers and Other Remedies

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– lack of tolerance

Beech

…is one of the remedies that Dr Bach grouped together under the category of overcare for welfare of others.

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…was described by Dr Bach as the remedy for people who ‘feel the need to see more good and beauty in all that surrounds them.’

People in a Beech state are critical and intolerant of others and cannot accept them how they are. They lack compassion and understanding of the circumstances and paths that other people are given, and are not able to see that everybody is in a different place on their journey through life.

Sometimes Beech intolerance show up in outbursts of irritability.

The remedy is taken to encourage tolerance of others so that Beech people can live and let live, so that they are able to see the positive in people surrounding them. As soon as that happens their irritability starts to disappear.

The positive potential of Beech is tolerance and a sense of compassion for and unity with others; the positive Beech person can see the good in others despite their imperfections.

Dr Bach’s description of Beech

For those who feel the need to see more good and beauty in all that surrounds them. And, although much appears to be wrong, to have the ability to see the good growing within. So as to be able to be more tolerant, lenient and understanding of the different way each individual and all things are working to their own final perfection.

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